Most proposals to Go are rejected or take years to be accepted. This can cause major frustration in people that want them to become a reality. I will tell a tale that starts with me on the user side and ends with me on the maintainer side, and I'll shed some light on this friction. There is a lot of fear, uncertainty and doubts around the contribution process to Go. With this keynote I'll try to explain what lies behind it, what are the reasons for the apparent friction and how to reason and think about it. Case studies data and examples will be shown along with personal experiences. The main takeaways for this talk will be: how to structure and think about a valid proposal, how to discuss one and why this complicated and often time blocking process needs to be in place.